Break ups.....well, they sometimes really suck! When I was younger I went through plenty of broken hearts and hated having to break up with someone. As an adult and after my divorce I hated dating....HATED it, I hated going through my story over and over again, knowing that most likely this person and I wouldn't have a second or third date. So, I tended not to date much, which was fine with me....I'm an introvert and don't have any problem with alone time and my space, however yes, it did get lonely over those 9 years. Some of the break ups were a blessing and some took awhile to get over.
They were so cute and had a couple bucket list that they would check off things as they completed....like decorating the Christmas tree, making cookies together, kissing in the rain (snow), fun things like that!
The break up was her decision....she is a senior and off to college next year, he is a junior and still has more high school. She wants to date different people.....which I totally understand and encourage her to do....but dang, I didn't realize how much I would miss him/them together. I know she is fine, but he is heart-broken and so I feel for him and worry about him, and hope in time he will get over his anger and hurt and be open to dating and having fun again. Honestly, right now they are too young for something serious to happen anyway. It just sucks that there are casualties and broken hearts along the way. :(
Has anyone else had a hard time with their child's break-up??? If so please share a comment so I know I'm not the only one and not a complete weirdo! I know I can be weird, but I don't want to be completely weird! ;)
I'm afraid I don't have kids so I can't help much! But that is very sad, Sharla, and I really feel for him, but I suppose we all have to go through a break up at some time.
ReplyDeleteThere aren't many relationships out there that last a life time, that's for sure! Except my brother who has been with his wife for nearly 30 years.
It's very touching that you care about him - I'm sure he appreciates it too!
Oh Sharla... I hear you. the first break up my daughter had felt like it was happening to me. My heart went out to her. You get so close to the boyfriend they kinda feel like part of the family. I have learned not to get too close to the guys but after a year or two (my daughter is 21) you can't help but feel connected to them.
ReplyDeletesending hugs to you and your daughter - it must have been hard on her as well.
Thanks Kimberly, it was hard, I really have a soft spot in my heart for that young man. He treated her just the way I would want a man to treat her, but she is young and wants to not have the pressure right now of a serious relationship, I can understand that. Thank you for your kind words! :)
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